The Luv Doc: A Housedaddy on the Ball: Would a Ditch Increase the Value of Your Property? – Columns
Dear Luv Doc,
Over the past 18 months, my husband’s business has been continuously downsizing. Fortunately, he managed to keep his full pay throughout, but last week his boss asked if he would be willing to volunteer to take a 30% pay cut, but only works about half of it. hours that he normally does. My husband doesn’t hate his job, but he doesn’t really live for it either, so he asked me how I would feel if he worked less so he could spend more time with our kids and work on things. projects around the house. We both earn a decent income and could probably live off my only salary if it boiled down to that, but I’m not sure what I think about becoming the main breadwinner. My husband says I should see this as an opportunity to make our lives less stressful, but I’m not sure that would be the case for me. What do you recommend? Should I agree to let him take the pay cut? I’m afraid this will become permanent and I’ll be stuck carrying most of the financial burden.
– Working mom
While I agree that your situation looks a little scary, it could be a lot worse. I mean, it’s not like your husband is gathering his old doom metal band together to try his hand at fame and fortune on Spotify. It doesn’t look like he’s going to give up his concert of the day to join an improvisation troupe. I guess by “working on projects around the house” he didn’t mean digging a medieval scale ditch around your house. If he did, that would of course be great. That wouldn’t necessarily get him out of the rat race because – news flash – rats can swim, but my cousin tells me they’re easier to take out with a .22 in open water. I know this sounds like a specious claim, but my cousin is one of those from East Texas Duck Dynasty guys who spend a lot of time digging a canoe.
Would a ditch increase the value of your property? Probably. In Austin there are very few things that can lower the value of your property other than Joe Rogan moving in next door, and doing it right, a ditch would definitely add to your appeal – especially with the Ren do set, which, I guess, represents about 70% of Austin homebuyers. That said, even if your husband isn’t digging a moat around your house, he may well be putting his time to good use in another way: decoupage, day trading, homebrewing, scrapbooking, puppets, leather goods, amateur bedwetting. porn … OK, that last one might have been too specific, but you get the idea. The point is, you either trust your husband to be an industrious and dynamic family man or you don’t.
If you think your husband will probably end up spending his free half days sitting on the couch, eating candy, and watching Hoda and Jenna, then I definitely suggest you put the kibosh on this matter – no telling Hoda and Jenna. However, if you just have a vague feeling that you are going to get the small end of the stick of happiness, perhaps you should reconsider your own situation and your satisfaction with it. If the COVID pandemic has taught us anything, it’s that the behaviors people thought were inviolable were in fact just ruts that we lacked the energy or imagination to get out of. I mean, fuck, isn’t that how we got Joe Rogan?
I suggest you sit down with this idea during a spell and decide what is really making you anxious. This way you can communicate it clearly to your husband. Who knows? This could be his best chance of having an income in the future. Plus, you might get a nice cutout from this offer. The most important thing to remember is that her happiness shouldn’t come at your expense. You have to be happy with whatever you decide on for your marriage to truly flourish – just make sure your decision is made for the right reasons.